It’s come to my attention…
Me: It’s come to my attention that there is a version of me who knows about sweetness.
That seems both unlikely and important, so I’d like to talk to her.
The Version of Me Who Knows About Sweetness steps out from behind some rose bushes and blinks up at me from under long eyelashes.
Her: That’s me.
Me: Excuse me if this is rude, but…you exist?!
Her: Oh yes. One of your/our major superpowers is the superpower of sweetness. We know about sweets, and we are sweet.
Me: But we don’t eat sugar! Or desserts of any kind! Remember? We can’t do sweets because they make us crazy.
Sweetness and Sugar Addiction
Her: Oh Honey, why do you think we were so sugar-addicted and crazy most of our life?
She looks at me like this is clearing something up. I look back at her like she’s talking nonsense.
Her: We had a weirdness with sugar because we didn’t know how to make room for all the sweetness in us. And sugar was the placeholder until we learned to have sweetness without pain.
Now we do have space, so we don’t need sugar binges to assure that. We get to relax into our sweetness. Real sweetness.
Me: Tell me more about that.*
What sweetness is
Her: True sweetness isn’t like a sugar buzz.
It feels like the opposite of heaviness with just a slight tingliness. It looks like illumination and radiance. Its sound is tinkling bells. Its effect is to lighten the load.
Me: What else do you want me to know about this?
Her: Sweetness is also strength. It can see you through.
Especially your (/our) brand of sweetness, which is also fierce.
The full name of your superpower is Ferocious Sweetness, but you don’t understand it.
She stops dramatically and looks up at me.
Me: Uh, what?
Her: I’d like you to ask me to explain Ferocious Sweetness.
Me: Umm, could you explain to me how Ferocious Sweetness works?
How Ferocious Sweetness Works
Her: Certainly. Thank you for asking.
Ferocious Sweetness is the grounded inner essence-of-the-essence of sweetness. It’s about lightening heavy burdens and soothing deep aches.
Sweetness is the door and it’s a light one, and a lightening one. But you eventually see that the frame is sturdy and solid, the door is sturdy and solid, that sweetness is sturdy and solid.
It changes people deep in their souls, in complete congruence with and respect for who they are.
You/We are a vessel of ferocious sweetness.
Me: Why me? Or, er, us?
Unlikely, counterintuitive things
Her: Because we like unlikely, counterintuitive things. Because we are unlikely and counterintuitive.
Because we have carried heavy burdens and experienced deep pain.
But mostly because we care about the burdens of others.
Me: And what do I, or we, or maybe just you, do with this Ferocious Sweetness?
Creating Symbolic Space
Her: Oh that’s a surprise. For now I want you to create some symbolic space for Sweetness in your life.
Invoke it on entry. Acknowledge it as your superpower. Give it imaginary rooms to play in. Hold space for it.
Me: Okay, thanks.
Her: You’re welcome, Sweetie.
*(“Tell me more about that” is my new secret phrase that fixes everything. I use it a lot on the gentleman and it works wonders. Especially when I’m making assumptions.)
As always, we comment with respect and kindness and we try to own our own stuff. No guilt!
Lots of love,